New ask Hacker News story: Ask HN: How do you find and work on your flaws?
Ask HN: How do you find and work on your flaws?
3 by c7DJTLrn | 2 comments on Hacker News.
Both in professional and personal relationships. As I get older (turning 22 this year) I feel that it's harder to find out what I'm doing wrong or could do better. People are less frank because you're a grown human being and there's nothing for them to gain from it. I consider myself really open to criticism and want to hear what people think, but not everybody is like this, so there's also a fear of being reprimanded. When you're six and forget your manners, your parents can quickly correct you. When you're a junior software engineer and break production, the senior can point out your mistake and help you to learn from it. But beyond this, there's only really close friends, family, and significant others that can help. For most individuals, there will be an inflection point where their parents know them less and less as they get older and eventually a romantic partner becomes the person most familiar with them. Then there's a whole new person to learn from. If you're not dating, what happens? Nobody really knows you, unless you're lucky to have close friends who you see often. So, there's nobody to observe you and help you grow. Hope this explains my question sufficiently.
3 by c7DJTLrn | 2 comments on Hacker News.
Both in professional and personal relationships. As I get older (turning 22 this year) I feel that it's harder to find out what I'm doing wrong or could do better. People are less frank because you're a grown human being and there's nothing for them to gain from it. I consider myself really open to criticism and want to hear what people think, but not everybody is like this, so there's also a fear of being reprimanded. When you're six and forget your manners, your parents can quickly correct you. When you're a junior software engineer and break production, the senior can point out your mistake and help you to learn from it. But beyond this, there's only really close friends, family, and significant others that can help. For most individuals, there will be an inflection point where their parents know them less and less as they get older and eventually a romantic partner becomes the person most familiar with them. Then there's a whole new person to learn from. If you're not dating, what happens? Nobody really knows you, unless you're lucky to have close friends who you see often. So, there's nobody to observe you and help you grow. Hope this explains my question sufficiently.
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